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This space is dedicated to providing resources that I use when things are just getting difficult. It’s not a lot but I believe that a little goes a long way. However, I know what I use may not work for everyone.
Sometimes, we want to stay in that negative mindset to reaffirm how we have portrayed ourselves.
But let me just say, easy is not always easy.
When I have just had enough.
I literally just stay quiet and I sit in silence in a private place. I do this because I do not want to say something that I will later on regret, it is hard to take your words back once it’s out in the air, and I have a very sharp mouth.
The other reason is, I stay silent to let my thoughts calm down because my thoughts go on overdrive to the point where I have a headache. Once I have a headache it is a wrap, everything goes down hill from there, I will start neglecting everything.
So, I am staying silent but I am exhaling and inhaling slowly. I am tuning in to my breathing and my body until I am ready.
Wherever I have had the trigger, e.g. my house, if it is safe to go outside I will go for a walk or I will stand outside my house and let the breeze caress my face. I will look at my surroundings and embrace the view. I don’t want to be consumed by the negativity in the room because in that moment wherever that trigger started is giving off a heavy and dark energy. The feeling of being outside gives me a sense of freedom it allows me to process what is happening to me and focus on what I can control, and let go of what I can’t, into the wind. Because I can not control every aspect of my life, I have really had to learn that I can only play my part!
I’ve got to put my thoughts somewhere. Yes, I have a period of silence and then I share it.
Now, I have different ways of sharing.
At the moment, my sharing depends on the energy level and the topic.
If I have been kept on overdrive I am writing a journal, if I am drained it’s a voice note.
I also have friends who I call, who will literally breakdown the situation with me. This gives me clarity, validation, understanding, unity and feeling heard. Feelings that just helps me navigate life in a different light.
I will always find a way to let it out because in the past keeping things in contributed heavily to my poor mental health.
Dear God, I thank you for your love and mercy. Lord I thank you for your Grace and protection. Lord I ask that you will just help me, help me to have a sound mind and calm my troubled heart. I can’t seem to let go of my burdens and they’re weighing me down. Give me strength and courage like David to find my calling, and to walk in the path that you have created for me. In Jesus Name, Amen.
2 Timothy 1:7
For God did not give you the spirit of Fear but of Power and Love and of a Sound mind.
Therapy has helped me to learn more about myself and about my emotional intelligence. Before, therapy I struggled with processing my own emotions. I would get angry and lash out, but being encouraged to open up about events actually helped me process my own thoughts. I believe the combination of God and therapy has helped me with where I direct my energy. And remember I come from an African Household, where therapy is seen as comedy. If I was to mention it to either of my parents they would toss it to the side or role their eyes to statement. They see it that is only ‘Mad’ people that have those type of stuff, so it took me kicking my own ass to seek therapy and it was the best decision. I started off with IAPT with my local borough, and then later on I went through my Gp for one to one sessions.
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